The Trap Hidden in Acceptance and Rejection
A simple shift that restores movement in your life
This morning I woke up with a sentence in my head:
Everything we fixate on, becomes rigid.
The more I let it resonate in my body, the more I saw how much truth is wrapped up in those six words.
Our true nature is fluid. We are liquid light in human form. A plasma-like flow.
Everything we are not is rigid. Rigidity does not evolve. It loops. It blocks. It holds on.
Attention acts like a crystalliser. When consciousness rests on one possibility, the wave collapses into a particle. That can be useful for creation. But when we hold on too tightly, the flow is lost. The energy stiffens. It no longer carries life force and it eventually collapses.
Fixation is like ice forming around a stream. The water still wants to move, but it gets stuck in place. That is the pain of obsession, judgment or clinging.
Fluidity is our natural state. Which means truth is fluid too. Our duality-trained minds struggle with this. The mind wants one fixed answer, one right and one wrong. But truth is not a frozen object. It is a moving current, and it only stays real if it keeps flowing.
When something happens in our lives, we usually fall into one of two moves: rejection or acceptance. We reject what we do not want. Or we accept it as if it is permanent and unchanging. Entire therapy systems are built around these two positions.
Yet both do the same thing. They entangle us with what is happening. Which means it stays stuck in our bodies and our lives.
Take illness as an example. Rejecting it entangles us with it. It hardens in the body. We fight it, we identify with it, we try to fix it, and we block our own life force. Accepting it makes it solid as well. We adjust our lives around it as if it will always be there. We quietly build that pathway into our future. Either way, the illness becomes rigid in us, because we hold it through acceptance or rejection.
To accept something is to stamp it as real and allowed.
To reject something is to stamp it as real and denied.
Both are stamps, labeling our experience as good or bad.
Both keep us stuck.
So what do we do if acceptance and rejection are really the same?
We allow. The neutral point between the binaries.
Allowing does not freeze anything. It does not stamp life with a yes or a no. It lets the current move through without grasping. Seen, felt, but not bound. Like water, moving as it is meant to, without being dammed or frozen.
With illness, for example, allowing means noticing the symptoms, pain or fatigue without projecting it into the future, without obsessively trying to control it and without building an identity around it. You feel what is present. You care for your body. You listen to what it needs in the moment.
But you do not declare yourself broken.
Allowing means you let the wave arrive, be felt, and pass. You follow your inner impulses about treatment and care. You trust that the experience will shift when it has done what it came to do.
Allowing is not passive. It is an active willingness to stay open, to stay fluid, to let life move instead of freezing it into something permanent. It is what restores fluidity. It is how life keeps evolving through us.
Allowing is not easy, because it means standing in the unknown.
The mind craves certainty. It would rather decide that something will never change, or that it must always be this way, than stay with the open space of not knowing. Acceptance and rejection both offer a false sense of ground. Allowing takes that ground away.
Allowing means letting reality move through without rushing to control it, without forcing it into a story of forever or never. It is an act of trust in life’s current, even when the next bend in the river cannot be seen.
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Reflection: Where in your life have you stamped reality as fixed? What would it feel like to let that current move through you by relaxing into it, instead of freezing it in place?